Pour Your Heart Out: How We Met






After the issues with Randall's health this weekend, I wanted to share with you how he and I met...





Do you believe that true love can be found on the internet??  I do because that's where I found it.  I don't know if any of you know but I was married once before and that is where the story starts...

I was 22 and had been married for 4 years.  I wasn't happy in this relationship anymore (that man and I had grown apart instead of together) and had decided to file for divorce.  Not long after that I was in a chatroom and in came this guy.  We exchanged hello's and I swear to you from that point I knew, I KNEW, I would end up with him.  He and I talked alot and became fast friends.  Now, mind you, I wasn't looking for love, I was just starting on a divorce, why would I want another man?  But there was something about him, something that drew me to him.  After a month of talking on-line we exchanged phone numbers.  I won't forget the first day I called him (YES, I made the first move! LOL) it was October 12, 2000.  From that day he and I talked on the phone almost everyday plus we still chatted on-line. 

Now, my family and friends worried about me.  They thought I was crazy.  All I heard was, "How do you know he is who he says he is?" and "He's probably psycho.  What if he comes here and hurts you?" and "How can you be in love with someone you don't know?"  They feared for my safety and well-being.  I love them all dearly for that.  I just had no words to describe to them how I knew he was "The One".

Ok, so we talked on the phone just about everyday.  I forgot to tell you that he lived in San Antonio, Texas at the time (I lived in Ohio).  So I made plans to fly out and see him (OMG girl you're CRAZY... heard alot of that too! LOL).  My Mom was dead set AGAINST me going to see him.  She had such doubts.  But I sat down and talked to her and told her that I had to go, that I needed to see if my feelings were real, that I couldn't let him slip away.  My trip was planned for Feburary, the week of Valentines Day, 2001.  I was a nervous wreck!!  The whole flight I wondered if I was doing the right thing.  I had thoughts that maybe I was crazy for flying out to see him.  I worried that maybe he wouldn't be at the airport to pick me up.  That maybe he chickened out at the last minute and I would return home to hear all the "told ya so's" from everyone.  But when the plane arrived and I walked off, he was standing there, smiling and looking a bit nervous himself.  I hugged him and kissed him.  From that moment I knew that what I had felt the very first time we typed "hello" to each other was true.  So I stayed a week with him.  I will spare you the details (lots of sight-seeing, parent meeting, love making and picture taking).  The day I had to come home, I almost didn't.  I wanted to stay with him but I had obligations at home that I needed to take care of.

About a month after I came home I found out I was pregnant!  Oh boy!  I was happy and scared all rolled into one.  I had to tell Randall but the funny thing was he already knew!  He has ESP, I swear it LOL!  He was happy the same as I was but worried too because we were still so far apart.  At my 8 week doctor visit they couldn't find a heartbeat and did an ultrasound, the baby had stopped growing (the time frame here is close to the end of April).  I was devastated.  I had miscarried once before with my ex-husband.  I was in shock and I had to call Randall 2000 miles away and tell him that I lost the baby.  It was a sad time but it also brought us closer together even though we were so far apart (does that make sense???)

Before I had miscarried, Randall had started making plans to move here to Ohio.  Afterwards, I asked him, "Are you still gonna move?"  He answered, "Yes I am.  I love you and want to be with you."  So by the middle of June 2001 he was here and moved in!  And mine forever and ever and ever LOL!  I need to say too that after 9/11 I got pregnant again and that's how beautiful Miss Kaylee came to be!

My love for Randall grows with each passing day.  I love him more than words could ever say.  He  loves me for me and understands that I have "bitchy days".  Sure our love isn't perfect.  I don't think anyones is.  He is my soul mate and he completes me.  Have you ever heard the song, "You had me from Hello" by Kenny Chesney??  That song reminds me of Randall.... 

And that's how Randall and I met!  Not the greatest story but it's "our" story and it's one that will be passed on to Kaylee and her kids!








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10 comments:

MommaPebz said...

awwwwwwww! Ya know, I doubt the validity of online relationships sometimes, but your story was just so romantic, challenging, & rewarding! Congrats to you for following your heart!

Stacey said...

Such a sweet story! That will make a wonderful memory to share with your daughter :)

Laurel said...

That's such a great story. How sweet!

Oka said...

Great story, but you can tell him I am still frustrated with him (on your behalf of course).

Did you call the doctor?

Lisa said...

Thats a sweet story. I met my hubby online too. Funny thing was he only lived 30 minutes away and I went to school with him for half a year in 1980 and never knew him.

Tylaine said...

That is a very sweet story. I also met my husband online (phoned him the week after we met) He bussed up to see me for a week (30 hrs. he musta really liked me :) I went down for a month and we got engaged. Craziest thing of my life but one of the best! Glad it has worked out so good.

Shell said...

Oh, I love this story! I absolutely believe in love found on the internet. After all, some of the best friends I have are internet friends!

I've met a few irl and it's not weird at all- it actually feels like I know them better than people I meet other ways.

Thanks for linking up!

Chief said...

Hey Chicka

You won the Toothsoap!

don't say you arent lucky! I would go to Vegas if I were you!

now send me your address so I can mail it to you!

The Princess of Sarcasm said...

Awwww....I married me a San Antonio boy too! He went to Lee HS. Where did your hubby go?

kris said...

Happy sighs at the thought of an instant connection carried through to lasting love.

Seriously.

Happy sighs.

This is just such a lovely story.

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